I’m puzzled by this question, which comes off as a trace judgey as the way it’s worded suggests my…

I’m puzzled by this question, which comes off as a trace judgey as the way it’s worded suggests my intent is somehow misguided. There are so many factors as to why a person might not turn to their family. Not every family is a supportive space. Your family might not be Black (half of mine is not). Your Black family members may have internalized racism. You may not discuss race as a family (mine never did). You may not have a community of Black people, family or otherwise, around you who can relate. Or you might just be demanding more of “non-racist” White people—I’ll refer you to Ibram X. Kendi’s latest book for more on “non-racism”—who pay lip service to supporting marginalized communities but don’t actually do it in practice.